Bored… Restless… and Empty

One of the symptoms of BPD is a persistent feeling of emptiness, which may manifest itself in a variety of ways, including boredom.  I don’t know if that’s why I’m feeling so bored and restless lately, but it very well may be.

Sometimes I am so bored I just sit aimlessly for hours at a time trying to decide what I feel like doing, only to realize I don’t feel like doing anything.  I made a list for such times… a list that has activities I enjoy doing.  But when I get like this, nothing seems appealing.  I can read over the list a hundred times… I can force myself to do something on the list, but i feel like a shell of a person, simply going through the motions without enjoying it.  I usually quickly lose interest in whatever I try… though I’m not certain that’s accurate, since I’m usually not interested in doing it in the first place.  No matter how “fun” it is.  No matter how much I normally enjoy doing it.

For example, I’ll game for a few minutes, get bored, wander around the house, get bored, try knitting, get bored, play with the cats, get bored, try to read, get bored… You get the idea.  Or if I’m at work, it’s more like – check email, get bored, work on a project for a few minutes, get bored, check email again, get bored, go to a meeting, get bored.  Luckily, if there is a deadline I can usually pull it together and get my work done.   But sometimes, it seems like I only spend an hour or two actually working on days like this… because I just can’t seem to find something I want to work on.  Instead, most of my day is spent aimlessly going from task to task.

This is one of those feelings that I have always felt. And because I have never “not” felt this way, I can’t help but wonder if it’s normal.  I mean, when does feeling bored and restless become abnormal?  How often does a normal person feel this way?  How long does the feeling last?  How many activities does a normal person have to try before they find something to alleviate their boredom?  Does not being able to find something I want to do mean I’m empty inside?  Do other people feel empty and restless at times?  If so, how often and for how long?

Worst of all, when I feel this way I also feel worthless.  Bored, restless, and worthless.  And i believe that if I could find just one thing to be interested in, one person to spend time with, that the feeling of emptiness and worthlessness will go away.  But it doesn’t.

I want to fill the emptiness, quell the boredom, but I don’t know how.  I want to learn a better way.  But I don’t even know where to start.


~ by Enygma on June 27, 2008.

10 Responses to “Bored… Restless… and Empty”

  1. Well I know I sometimes get bored like that, and unless I find something to stimulate or challenge me it can last a few hours to a few days. But usually if I find something to stimulate me or challenge me. I get around it, doesn’t have to be something I enjoy necessarily, just something difficult I need to figure out. Can sometimes be as simple as a crossword puzzle… starting out bored and ready to put it down till slowly as words get filled in I find it more and more challenging and more and more rewarding until I am actually enjoying it and don’t even realize that time has passed. Sorry for the ramble I lose track easy.


  2. Ok need to add to my comment. What I meant was it doesn’t necessarily have to be something you would enjoy to break your boredom, sometimes its doing something you don’t enjoy..its the challenge of it that breaks the boredom the joy of finishing the challenge has nothing to do with the breaking the boredom, its the stimulation to the mind that breaks the boredom, by definition a stimulated mind can not be bored.

  3. I’m sitting here, bored, restless, sleepless and empty. Just for fun i googled “bored and restless”, maybe It’d give me something to read I thought, a kick for the moment. The first hit were this post. And I would just like to thank you, or at least tell you that you enlightened my night. I haven’t ever before met or read about someone else who also have these occasional intense feelings of boredom and restlessness. It gave me some kind of good feeling, knowing that I’m not alone feeling this way. Thank you stranger!

  4. Ditto that. I’m feeling bored and restless about now and this is the first page that came up on google.

    • Same here!:)

      • Hi! It’s been so long since I last commented on the site…

        Since you’ve responded I’ll share with you what I found out.. 🙂 I’ve been getting exercise, eating well and preventing myself from falling into exhaustion.. that really helped.

        Hopefully it’s just a phase for you. Don’t give up 🙂

  5. me too, sometimes i also feel angry, dont even know what i feel angry about

  6. thank you for this article, I’m happy I’m not alone. I am 25 and have had these periods since childhood. I start a gym membership on Monday, hopefully it helps.

  7. You are not alone, brother. I am generally an openminded person. I like to think. Recently, for about 2 years, I have been feeling this way. I feel bored, worthless at times, aimless in life, unloved, out-of-the-loop and somehow lost. And I cant seem to put my finger on the reason. It jumps up out of nowhere, engulfs my being for a few hours, days or weeks. But every single time that happened, I did come out of it feeling better, if I may. I think of the beautiful things in this world. The infinity of the universe reassures me. The colors all around assure me. The little girl next door does. The fact that I am here of all places in the universe, on earth with all of humanity and plants and animals. I feel reassured. But it has to come from within. I have to let myself see it. Yet I fall back here time and again. And today I decided to Google it. And here I am, feeling a tiny bit better about myself, after this comment. Go on, dream. Live. Enjoy every moment. You are not alone. 🙂

  8. Thanks for sharing, I totally can relate. Trust me – sitting up in tears right now ready to just jump out the window because I just can’t handle this boredom. Sometimes I think it’s impossible for others to understand (Non-bpds) and think it’s easier to just suffer than attempt a “please understand and be there” explanation. Thnx. – J

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